Are You Ready to Become a Gestational Carrier?
If you’re reading this, it’s probably because someone you care about very much has asked you to carry his or her child. Or, maybe you’ve tried every fertility treatment available and none have worked. A Gestational Carrier is your last option, and you want so very much to make it work. Whether you’re the parent-to-be or the carrier-to-be, one thing is certain, you’re likely feeling both excitement and fear.
Your concerns are valid and your anxiety is normal – agreeing to become or to use a gestational carrier is a big step. By learning more about the gestational carrier process, you can be better informed so that you can make the right decision for everyone involved.
The Gestational Carrier Process
Having a child by gestational carrier is a process that requires legal, medical, and personal planning. After identifying a possible carrier, a couple must ensure that person is emotionally willing and medically ready to carry their child. This means questionnaires, medical tests, and interviews by fertility doctors. The carrier and the couple will need to ensure they are on the same page regarding diet, exercise, and values. You will need to talk about the hard issues, such as what happens if the fetus is diagnosed with a birth defect or genetic condition. You’ll make plans for the day the baby is born, taking into account both your desires as you formulate a birth plan.
Finally, you will discuss any contact that you will want to have with the each other or child after he or she is born. While these conversations can get emotional, fertility doctors and experienced gestational carriers or couples who have used carriers can be on hand to help. Once everyone is on the same page, you’ll sign the legal agreement and go through the embryo transfer procedure once your doctor has given the OK.
What to Expect – The Gestational Carrier
Once you become pregnant, what can you expect? Fortunately, a gestational carrier cycle is not much different from a traditional pregnancy once the embryos have been transferred. You’ll go to an OBGYN regularly, have ultrasounds, get blood tests, and undergo other screenings. Perhaps the biggest difference is that you will do all of this hand-in-hand with another individual or couple, whose baby you are carrying. Because pregnancy is exhausting on its own, this constant companionship may be tiring at times. However, you’ll also find it very supportive at other times. You’ll always have someone to call or to lean on when the pregnancy makes you sick, emotional, or exhausted.
What to Expect – The Parents-to-Be
Choosing another person to carry your child can be overwhelming, so it’s normal to feel anxious even months after you’ve made your decision and even after the embryos have been transferred. However, the best thing you can do for yourself, your partner, your gestational carrier, and your baby is to relax.
Your gestational carrier needs to keep healthy, and additional stress won’t make that easy. Also, you’ll soon realize that your anxiety is put at ease when you start accompanying her to various appointments. As you discuss each aspect of your baby’s health with the doctors, you’ll realize how important of a role you play in your baby’s life, even while in another woman’s womb.
Using a gestational carrier is a big decision, requiring time, financial, and emotional commitments on the part of everyone involved. However, though the process can get stressful at times, a good match between parents-to-be and their gestational carrier can result in a long-lasting friendship and a healthy baby!